The Glorification of the Side Chick!
"I'M NOT A TOY! IF YOU WANT ME, EARN ME!"
Emphatically stated by thee Miss Olivia Pope of the hit abc series, Scandal. When she said this to Fitz, I simply could not take it serious. If you have been living under a rock for the last 2-3 years or so, Kerry Washington plays the mistress of the President. Yes...MISTRESS! The statement which I opened this post with is super contradictory because as a mistress; YOU ARE A TOY! Fitz "plays" with his "toy" whenever he wants to. That's only the half of it though. This leads to a greater issue; the glorification of the side chick. Due to the volume of viewers Scandal is pumping out every season (mainly women viewership), she's glorified. "Yea girl, Olivia Pope is a bad B&%$h!" "Awwwww, her and Fitz's relationship is true love girl. She got more power over him than his wife." This leads women to believing that the side chick is EVERYTHING. The same principle with the show "Being Mary Jane".
The bigger picture is this. In order for the side chick to be glorified that means marriage is being valued less and less. In order for there to be a side chick, she must be on the side of a man and his wife. This type of behavior shows NO reverence or respect for the marriage relationship.
Being married, going on five years now, has created (in me) a new found respect for marriage. I work hard...WORK HARD...for the marriage I have and the culture in my home. "2 many ppl infatuated w/ the idea of marriage and not understanding the work it takes to have a healthy/happy/thriving marriage. #marriage" This was a tweet I sent out a while ago after I had a conversation with my cousin about preparing for marriage. For this post, I'm led to the Song of Solomon. I believe I'm led there because of what it represents. It represents what isn't highlighted in today's culture as it pertains to marriage and the sanctity of the sexual intimacy between the husband and wife of that union. In addition to Song of Solomon, I'll also go to a passage in 1st Corinthians which says, " Now in response to the matters you wrote about: "It is good for a man not to have relations with a woman." 2 But because sexual immorality is so common, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband. 3 A husband should fulfill his marital resonsibility to his wife, and likewise a wife to her husband. 4. A wife does not have the right over her own body, but her husband does. In the same way, a husband does not have the right over his own body, but his wife does. Do not deprive one another sexually - except when you agree for a time, to devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again; otherwise, Satan may tempt you because of your lack of self-control." (1st Cor. 7:1-5)
These two examples from scripture not only show you a glimpse of how two people who are attracted to each other should carry that attraction out, but it also gives you the proper context in which these things should be taking place...WITHIN A MARRIAGE! I can give you several reasons regarding why two people should wait until the weddng night before they experience one another as it was expressed in our two examples of scripture. However, this post is about how there is such a disregard to the sanctity of marriage.
The other sad reality (and then I'm done) is the "glorification" soon comes to an end. Mistress' streaks never last long before it all goes sour. Someway somehow all the secrets are put into the open and all you're left with are a broken home/marriage, lack of trust, plenty of misplaced emotions, and guilt. It's VERY rare for the person doing the cheating to leave behind their family for the person involved in the affair. Too many couples invite God to the wedding, but keep Him out of the marriage. Many couples also ask to get married in God's house, yet don't invite Him into their home to keep their marriage.
The pleasures of sin last only for but a season. Yet the residuals of sin can last for a lifetime.